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Wedding Reception – What to do if no one is dancing?

Jan
17


The day is finally here.  The day you have been dreaming of since your were little.  The day  you have planned for the past 12 months. With all stress, with all the pains, the day is finally here.  Your WEDDING DAY.  First thing you should do is relax and enjoy the day.

wedding dance floor

The wedding ceremony is beautiful and very heartfelt.  It transpires without any hitches.  The bridal couple enters the reception hall to a standing ovation.  Then, everyone eats and the formal dances are complete.  FINALLY, the part-e begins.  Thirty minutes transpire and no one is dancing.  This is not the reception party that you had envisioned.  You pictured everyone dancing the night away.  However, no one is dancing.  What can you do to get people on the dance floor to get the party started?  We offer the following recommendations to get the party started.

  • What guests are the most likely to dance?  Yes, it’s the young adults.  Therefore, play current music hits that are to on the charts now including Katy Perry, Lady Gaga, Black Eyed Peas, Rihanna, etc.  The younger crowd could get the party started.
  • Men typically will not get up to the dance floor to many high tempo songs.  Think about playing a couple slow songs consecutively to get couples to the dance floor.  Play well known songs by every age group such as Unchained Melody by the Righteous Brothers and What a Wonderful World by Louis Armstrong.
  • Play an anthem song that everyone knows that they can sing along to.  Rock – Don’t Stop Believin’ by Journey, R&B – Shout! by the Isley Brothers, Country – Friends In Low Places by Garth Brooks, Classic Rock – We are the Champions by Queen and much more.  Know your crowd and the type of music that get’s them excited.
  • Talk to the bride and groom beforehand and get an idea of their favorite music style.  Find out if they like group dances and which ones suit their fancy.  You can play a group dance but it must be headlines by the bride and groom leading the way.  Such dances include he conga, the train, the electric slide, the macarena and so on.  Reminder – keep the bride and groom in the forefront so that everyone joins in.
  • Finally, plan a group dance to get everyone on the dance floor.  This way it will be hard for them to leave!  One such planned dance is to invite all married couples to the dance floor.  Then, start removing married couples from newest to oldest until the longest married couple is remaining.  The, give a bride’s bouquet to them as a gift from the bride and groom.

Do you have any further suggestions to fill the dance floor when empty?  Please comment in!  Lastly, stay away from our list of songs not to play at weddings.

 

The Role of Music in Your Wedding

Jun
28


Music is one of the things in your wedding, which forms the part of your persona and helps you to set the mood of your wedding party. Choosing music for your wedding can be one of the most enjoyable tasks of your wedding planning. It can also be a good option when you want to take a break from the busy and hectic preparations of your wedding. Some couples have an impression that music is not necessary in the wedding or they don’t find the task very important and leave it completely to the DJ. However,this should not be the case, as music helps to add an essence of entertainment and fun to the enjoyable and auspicious occasion like your wedding. Without music your wedding can turn out to be quite a dull affair with a feeling of something missing from it. Moreover, it is always special to dedicate songs to your loved ones.

Since music played in the wedding can be heard by everyone and is crucial for setting up the right mood of the wedding party,  it should be selected with utmost caution. For selecting the right kind of music for your wedding there are a few tips to remember.

  • Firstly it is essential to remember that music should not cater to only a single age group. This is because in every wedding there are people who belong to different age groups starting from children, teenagers, youth, to the elders. Thus, if music is of the choice of only one age group then the others will tend to get bored and sometimes even frustrated.
  • Second most important thing to remember while choosing your wedding playlist is that it should not contain any songs that may sound awkward or annoying when played aloud in an  audience. There are many songs in your I-pod that you may personally like but they may not be very decent to be played when you are being accompanied by your mother and grandmother.
  • Another thing that should be considered while selecting the songs for your wedding is that they should not all be dance numbers as a wedding should not have a complete dance party feel to it.
  • Next point to remember is selecting the right DJ or band. Make sure whatever you hire for the music requirements of your wedding, be it a band or a DJ, you explain your music specifications as well as any restrictions very clear to them. A DJ can be hired when your wedding is more of a fun affair and a band could be a good option when you want to give an old school feel to your wedding.
  • Also, make sure that the playlist does not have too much variety in tempo and feel of music as constant switch of music from rock, to waltz, old school, or romantic can many a times become frustrating for the audience.

Apart from the above tips, never forget to add your personal touch to your wedding playlist as music is the best way to add the essence of your personality to the wedding and convey your feelings for your partner and loved ones through music.

This article has been written by an expert associated with WeddingMuseum.com, a company providing wedding music lists for today’s brides and grooms.

 

How to Choose Your Wedding Songs

Oct
30


How to Choose Your Wedding Songs

Songs add spirit to an occasion. However, to make that happen, you need to choose the right songs. An appropriately selected song, with meaningful lyrics and melodious tune, would help set the situation. It is always better to devote some time selecting the songs you would like to play in your wedding. With so many options, your choice is going to be difficult but here are some tips that should help you in making the right choice:

Make It Personal

The wedding song should be absolutely personal for the bride and groom. The song should not be chosen just to please the guests but to make it memorable for the wedding couple. The first dance of the newlyweds is special to both the bride and groom. A song that is liked by both, or somehow reflects their feelings, would be appropriate.

Borrow From Yesteryear Songs

Popular yesteryear songs, if selected precisely, can serve the purpose. You could always select popular songs of today but they may be the favorite for many other wedding couples of today also. So if you want to be different from others, you can move a few weeks or months back. There could be several other songs out there that would fit the occasion.

Ask DJ to Suggest

If you have no clue which song to play, ask the reception band or DJ to give you some suggestions. Playing music is their job and they can offer suggestions based on the melody and lyric quality of each song. Of course it is your prerogative to select the song. You should select the song which is you think fits the bill perfectly.

Activity Songs

Separate songs can be chosen for different activities during the wedding. You could choose songs for the entrance of the bride, cocktail time, dinnertime, cake cutting and parents’ dance. An appropriately chosen song for every activity would add to the mood. However, play your theme song on your first dance at the reception.

Play Tribute Songs

You can also choose to play tribute songs for your elders, expressing your affection and gratitude for them. Your parents would be pleasantly surprised to hear it. You could play your parents’ favorite songs from their own weddings. In addition, you could request your parents to dance together.  This would recreate feelings from their own weddings. It would be sweet to recognize their past experiences.

Variations would Do

There could be a song that you like but think that the situation would not be appropriate for the old beat. You could ask your band to play the song in different beat. You could tell the band to play an originally slow song fast or you could ask them to play a fast song slower. It is your function and the decision lies with you. It is up to you what kind of music you want.

Check the Lyrics

Go through the song lyrics before you decide upon a song. Some songs have good tunes but lyrics might send out a negative message like frustration and sadness. Some lyrics could have sexual undertone. A song should be judged not only by its melodious merit but also by its lyrics. So check out if the lyrics are appropriate for the occasion.

Check the Band

Check about the past performances of the band you intend to hire. Would you honestly want to hire a band that has no past record? You should also meet the artist who is supposed to perform on the occasion. It is recommended that you should straightly ask him how many functions he has performed in. Of course you would not want a novice for your wedding.

To plan your wedding occasion, you could visit a wedding planner. On the Internet, you would find links to other wedding vendors extending out a helping hand for all brides-to-be.

The author is associated with WeddingMuseum.com, which offers wedding songs, wedding store, wedding ideas as well as services.

 

What Makes A Good Wedding DJ

Aug
09


What Really Makes A Good Wedding DJ

After 13 years in the industry I’ve seen my share of good DJs and heard the horror stories. The question comes up: what separates a good wedding DJ from an average one and then the rest?

Let’s begin by defining what a makes a wedding DJ different from let’s say, a club DJ.

Basically a club DJ will DJ a club (or a dance floor at a club) with a certain “vibe”. Which means that he/she will play a particular genre/style of music and for a particular night won’t play anything else. The crowd that visits that club will party to the music and if they don’t like the music, ditch the club (or floor) and go to another party.

A wedding is different. You have a crowd of 50 to 150 guests ranging in age from 5 – 85 with music taste that range from 50’s jazz to modern day fidget. Now the wedding DJ’s job is to entertain all of these people at the same time,
and they can’t just up and leave (that’s usually considered rude. Now I use the word entertain, and not keep everyone on the dance floor for a reason.

Typically at a wedding you will have about 50% smokers (who will spend half the night outdoors smoking – due to our country’s strict smoking laws), some of these, along with another 15% of the crowd will hang out at the bar. This
leaves about 35% of the crowd. Of these about 10% will just want to hang out (they’re either too old, or haven’t seen each other in ages and just want to chill). This leaves you with about 25% who will want to spend the whole
night on the dancefloor. Of this 25%, 10% will dance to just about anything the DJ plays (which makes it easy, right?)

WRONG!

The art lies in entertaining 100% of the crowd. The old folk, the young folk. The ones who enjoys the electro?pop and the metalheads. All of them in one night.

So the question you should ask your wedding DJ is not “what kind of music do you play?”. The question you should ask your DJ is “why are you a wedding DJ?”

Being a wedding DJ is an art, and you have to love it. It’s like cooking a soufflé. Anyone can cook macaroni and cheese, but not everyone has mastered the art of baking a cheese soufflé. It takes time, patience, and a love of the art.

So there you have it, in a nutshell.

Of course there are all the other questions to ask, like equipment, is the DJ registered with SAMRO and SADJA. But a DJ that takes his art seriously will use production?grade equipment, always have backup equipment available, be registered with SAMRO (to legally perform publically), and be registered with SADJA because he is a professional and wants to be recognised as such.

About the Author: By Derek Jansen ? founder of DerekJay Entertainment. DerekJay Entertainment specializes in wedding DJs and DJ
Hire
. For more information, visit www.djentertainment.co.za/dj?hire.html

 

true meaning of songs

Jan
26


It was brought to our attention this week by a wonderful bride-to-be that there are some songs on our do not play list on other song lists for weddings. This is a great point that we will consider this week and make necessary changes. For example, My Heart Will Go On is on the best 90s songs and American Pie is on the best rock songs list.

We would like the make the point that not every bride knows the true meaning of songs they are requesting for their wedding. Many songs are very popular and many people like them. If brides like a particular song and it makes them feel good, then why not play it at your wedding? It’s YOUR wedding!

We are just trying to get the word out about certain songs. The song I Will Survive by Gloria Gaynor is a fantastic party song to get people dancing. It’s up to you if you want a song played at your wedding reception that represents a woman who will survive after a breakup. Not really wedding themed but then again it’s your choice. Another example is American Pie by Don McLean. The reason it’s on our do not play list is because the song is more that eight minutes long. This is a long time if no one is on the dance floor. However, there are weddings I was a DJ at and the song created a singing frenzy on the dance floor with the bridal party as they loved the song.

The Macarena by Los Del Rio is on our do not play list for the simple reason of being well overplayed. This is not to say you should not have it at you wedding if you love the song and know you and all your friends will line dance to it. We are just sending a friendly reminder that the Macarena is played at the majority of weddings and many people have grown to hate it.

In conclusion, it’s your wedding. Play the songs you love, give the music entertainer the songs you don’t want played, and leave the rest up to them. It’s the music entertainer’s job to get people dancing!

 

What Not To Play at a Wedding Reception

Jan
02


Groom’s Guide for What Not To Play at a Wedding Reception

Grooms selecting music for their wedding reception sounds easy. Play the music the bride and groom like. If it were only that simple. We encourage bridal couples to select music that means something to them for their special dances. However, we still have a few guidelines to follow when selecting songs for a wedding reception.

Do not play music with explicit lyrics. Don’t assume this is the case. Verify music entertainers have all radio edit versions of songs to be played at your wedding receptions that contain explicit lyrics in their original releases.

Do not play songs that reference death. My Heart Will Go On by Celine Dion. Who will not think of the lives lost on the Titanic when this song is played? Tears in Heaven by Eric Clapton. This song was written by Eric in memory of his son.

Do not play songs that reference suicide. Examples include Don’t Close Your Eyes by Kix and Jumper by Third Eye Blind.

Grooms, be sure you discuss with your bride-to-be about the type of music to be played as background/dinner music. Options for background music include jazz, classical and pop. The music entertainer needs to know so they can prepare the correct style of background music. Classical music would not be appropriate for a country theme reception.

Do not play music that is suggestive or offensive. Songs that may be considered offensive that are mainstream include My Humps by the Black Eyed Peas, Wild Thing by Tone-Loc and I Touch Myself by the Divinyls.

Songs to add to a do not play list at a wedding reception may include songs that refer to the stressful wedding planning process. Stressful wedding planning songs include I’m In a Hurry by Alabama and Rush Rush by Paula Abdul.

Please add stalking songs to your do not play list. Stalking songs include Every Breath You Take by the Police and Somebody’s Watching Me by Rockwell.

You must decide if both of you would like group dances to be played at your reception. Some people do not like such dances as they consider them goofy and/or well overplayed at wedding receptions. Group songs include the Macarena by the Los Del Rio, Y.M.C.A. by the Village People and Hokey Pokey by Ray Anthony.

Many people feel the money/dollar dance is inappropriate at a wedding reception. The reasoning is because guests are expected to bring a present and to ask for more money in the dollar dance is greedy. However, others feel it is a great way to have multiple one on one conversions with many guests.

You must consider if you would like songs played that have an extended playing time. The standard song is about three minutes. The following songs are in excess of seven minutes each. Stairway to Heaven by Led Zeppelin, Paradise by the Dashboard Lights by Meatloaf and American Pie by Don McLean.

Finally, please consider adding songs to your do not play list that are just plain in bad taste. Song titles considered to be in bad taste include Love Stinks – J. Geils Band, You Give Love a Bad Name – Bon Jovi, My Best Friend’s Girl – The Cars, Jessie’s Girl – Rick Springfield, Should I Stay or Should I Go – The Clash, Mother-In-Law – Ernie K-Doe, Suspicious Minds – Elvis Presley, To All The Girls I’ve Loved Before – Julio Iglesias, I Still Haven’t Found What I’m Looking For – U2, She Hates Me – Puddle of Mudd, Everything About You – Ugly Kid Joe. For a complete list of all of our suggested songs not to play at weddings, please follow the previous link.

About the AuthorMatt Campbell is the owner of WeddingMuseum.com. WeddingMuseum.com offers online wedding planning and wedding website museum. One of the most helpful features of WeddingMuseum.com is our song suggestions and advice for a wedding ceremonies and receptions.

 

How Much Does A Wedding Pianist Charge?

Jun
11


In early April of 2009, I was asked to play for a wedding ceremony that seemed to be very uncomplicated when I agreed to contract with the bride/groom. Just a simple “Here Comes The Bride” was requested in addition to a few special pieces. This was very low cost to the couple who insisted they were on a budget yet planning a wedding at a historical home in Oak Park. With the economy being as unsettled as it currently is and people trying to cut corners, against my better judgment, I agreed to a much lower fee than I usually charge.

These following stories will demonstrate how a wedding with a “low cost” musician could have resulted in disasters.

Wedding # 1

Upon my early arrival to the first wedding, I discovered the ceremony was to be held outside in 49 degree weather with very gusty winds. HOWEVER……..

The grand piano was INSIDE this venue overlooking a huge front porch – positioned at the rear – behind the guests where I could only peer out an open “ floor to ceiling” window about two feet wide.

The entire ceremony was on the OTHER side of a solid wall. My hands were so cold I ran hot water over them for 20 minutes prior to the ceremony. This wall separated me from all the guests and bridal party where I could not see OR hear the minister, (50 feet at the other end of the porch), did not know when the bridal party or bride was entering, making it impossible for me to know when to start/stop playing a particular piece. Special music requested by the bride was flying off the piano and onto the floor. My “lookout” was BEHIND me and did not help me in the least. The other appointed “look out” was dancing with his baby (flower girl) in the aisle enjoying the festivities while I struggled to figure out what was going on and wondering how I was going to coordinate music for a processional I could not see. To add to the “mix”, I was attempting to read music and turning completely around to determine where the bridal party was.

Would an amateur, music student, relative of the bride, etc, know what to do under these unforeseen circumstances? I think everyone knows the answer to this question. As a professional musician, I took an impossible situation and transformed it into a successful one by being prepared for the unexpected.

Wedding # 2

This wedding was held at a venue I perform at quite frequently, so I was very familiar with the layout of the hotel and where the bridal party would be entering. Having completed prelude, processional music, and noting the bride standing at the entrance, I proceeded to begin the “Bridal March”. Everything had run smoothly until now. The bride froze in her tracks. I could see her through the window and couldn’t understand why she wasn’t walking! Enough time went by and the “Bridal March” was over. But there was no bride at the altar! All vendors were baffled as to why the bride just stood in the doorway! What would an amateur do? Keep playing the march over and over and over sounding like a broken record? I knew if I stopped playing altogether everyone would know something was wrong. So, I started playing anything that resembled wedding music hoping the guests would believe that I meant to do that! Reverend Jim Rehnberg (the most amazing minister in Chicagoland), said afterwards, “GOOD SAVE!!”….. So, what happened to the bride?? The ring bearer had left the wedding rings on the 7th floor of the hotel. No rings?

No wedding! Would an amateur know what to do and be able to figure a way out?

What does A Pianist Charge?

As a Professional Chicago Pianist for Corporate/Social Events since 1983, this question is often the first and only question I hear when a potential client calls. Unfortunately, we aren’t all priced like a box of cereal but consider a variety of factors that determine our fees.

Ideally, we’d hope our clients would allow us time to explain our charges but often the only information they hear is the “price tag” without giving us the opportunity to explain WHY we charge what we do. Just as prices vary for a thrifty Ford Taurus as opposed to a Mercedes SL-500 with fine leather interior, musicians vary pricing depending on what the services and their value represent.

What do I Base My Piano Fee On?

* The First Factor In Establishing Fees Is My Experience*

My professional experience in both the corporate and social markets, having performed for every function, imaginable, is extensive – Christenings, Bar Mitzvahs, Store Grand Openings, Political Fundraisers, Televised Awards Presentations, performing for a Rose Bowl “Special” on a Santa Fe train bound for California, Chartered Boats, Funerals, Hospitality Suites, Trade Shows, Conventions, high profile “Hollywood VIP Receptions” including one for Robert Redford/Sally Field, and as Lead Pianist for Nordstrom 7 years (Oak Brook / Woodfield locations) as well as Von Maur in Lombard and St. Charles from 1997 to 2009 ( current).

With my experience performing for weddings, I know what to do if the minister is detained, your ceremony gets delayed for any reason, if the processional has to be lengthened or shortened, etc. If a guest approaches the piano during the reception and asks for a favorite piece, I can play it – without music. I am familiar with logistics of hotels, clubs, restaurants, and can tell you if the piano is in good shape. There is protocol involved with every event, and I am educated as to the role every person plays at the venue should I have questions or concerns upon arrival before your event has even begun.

“Do You Know The Difference Between An Amateur And A Professional Musician And Why One Is Such A Bargain?”

* The Second Factor Is Based On Knowledge Of My Craft*

Beyond the education required (many of us have spent our entire lives studying music), I offer you a huge library of music to choose from, a polished repertoire of a great variety of selections that are personally arranged for your special occasion. Memorizing all music allows the freedom of expression to perform with sensitivity and creativity – as opposed to relying on sheet music – which can be messy and not very professional. Every professional solo pianist who has performed in concert is required to memorize every single piece performed in public. I offer you 5 hours of professional, appropriate, memorized repertoire. You want your professional to interact with your guests, be inviting, approachable, and ensure your guests feel welcome! (For weddings/events that may require special music, there would be sheet music on the piano as the only exception.)

Do not be surprised to learn that many brides have asked friends/relatives to perform at their wedding only to be disappointed the week before when this “special guest artist” backs out and gets nervous. Professionals protect you from any last minute “disasters”. Your legal contract is binding. You can rely on a pro to be where he/she is supposed to be – on time – preferably – early! If for any reason, your musician becomes ill (in 26 years, I have missed only two performances), but I had a professional networking of substitutes who were comparable in expertise and available at a moment’s notice to fill in – Qualified professionals were sent in my place unlike an amateur who would simply not have resources for a replacement!

The relative you adore who may only know four piano pieces is not qualified to perform for an hour (typical cocktail reception), most likely cannot take requests from anyone, cannot have conversation while performing, is not in professional musician attire, and may decide to quit 15 minutes before your reception is over because fatigue is setting in ~ or they have just run out of things to play! PLEASE – Let them be guests!! Remember….. You WILL get what you pay for!! Your peace of mind on this day you’ve planned for a lifetime is so important. We play for hundreds of parties, yearly. Aunt Mary may be a wonderful pianist in the confines of her living room but not for 150 of your guests who expect to be entertained and want to hear something besides “Let Me Call You Sweetheart”.

“I Only Want You To Play The Wedding March ~ That Won’t Tale More Than 15 minutes! Why Do I Have To Pay For An Hour?”

*The Third Factor Is The Professional Ability To Assist My Clients In Planning Their Successful Event*

Most people don’t realize that a wedding consists of 15-30 minutes of prelude music (music as guests are being seated before the actual ceremony). Sometimes, a musician must research certain requests. That special music/CD must be obtained. We must know how to locate it, learn it, and make it sound like we’ve been playing it for ten years. We must also be knowledgeable of the ceremony, itself. When is music supposed to be played? Not only for prelude but for your bridesmaids, (processional music), the bride’s entrance, the Unity candle (where applicable), recessional, and postlude (where guests exit the ceremony location). If your ceremony is delayed, the prelude is prolonged until the officiate is ready to begin. Your “15 Minute Ceremony” may have turned into an hour. We learn to expect the unexpected – and that can only come with the experience of having done hundreds of ceremonies.

Before you hire your wedding ceremony musician, I suggest asking some of the following questions:

  • Do you know how to end the music very suddenly without it sounding choppy and awkward when the bride reaches the altar before the piece is over?
  • Do you know where to find a vocalist if requested by the bride?
  • Do you know how to extend a piece without sounding like a broken record if the processional lasts longer than you thought?
  • Do you know how long an interlude should be when accompanying for a Unity Candle?
  • Do you know where to obtain special music, how long it takes to obtain it after ordering, or that you might have to change the key for a vocalist but the piece you have received is not written in his/her favorite key?
  • Do you know how many pieces to play for a Prelude or how long one is supposed to last?
  • Do you have enough pieces to play if the five you learned aren’t enough when Grandma/Grandpa haven’t even arrived at the church yet because they were detained in traffic?
  • If your bride needs a consultation, do you have any idea what music to recommend?
  • How many weddings have you performed for?
  • I’d like additional musicians to play along with you. Do you know any? Do you do ensemble work? Do you need a rehearsal?
  • the list goes on.

We must know what to do in a situation where not all is going as planned on the planner’s itinerary! Do you know that most Catholic churches require you use their musicians as part of the Musical Director’s agreement with the church you are being married in?

“I Am Having A Video Presentation For 15 Minutes. You Don’t Have To Play Music Then. Do I Have To Pay You Anyway?”

* The Fourth Factor Is Time Investment/Travel (Weather Delays), Preparation, Practice, Consultations*

Many events require downtown/hotel parking. Fees can be as great as $30.00 for one hour. Gas costs are high. For me, it is a 70 mile round trip to downtown Chicago. Fees are usually based, hourly. If you choose to have a slide presentation but prefer your musician take a break, we are compensated for our time. We also take time to dress, professionally. We are “working” two hours just in preparation for your party. We also type/send contracts, make phone calls, conduct consultations (planning music), additional practice for special requests, arrange for piano rentals/technicians, microphones, and making sure pianos are in proper tune. I offer recommendations at no charge-for additional performers/vendors as a service to her clients needing DJ’s, Bands, Orchestras, etc. In 26 years, I have worked with the best musicians and can recommend the best to YOU. There is much that is involved when providing great customer service –resulting in a fee quoted to you based on great value! You may only see the musician at the piano – Keep in mind what goes on “behind the scenes” in preparation for your successful event. You may only plan one wedding in a lifetime but we perform for hundreds in our careers. Most musicians will break on the hour for ten minutes. I take one fifteen break in 3 hours – adding to the value of my service and a bonus to you!

When Chicago weather is not the best, we must allow even more time to arrive at the exact time stated on your contract. We do not want your event delayed because the musician is stuck in traffic due to a major snowstorm and did not allow enough travel time. This is how a contract protects you. An amateur will not have a contract but may have lots of excuses for you instead.

“Do You Ever Give Discounts?”

*The Fifth Factor Is Based On Time Of Day / Day Of Week You Plan Your Event*

Most Chicago musicians have a “minimum” on Saturday nights they will play for (typically, 3 hrs for cocktail/dinner receptions) or a fee equivalent to 3 hours of play time. This is a standard practice. I offer a $50 discount for Friday evenings, Sundays, and Saturday events ending before 4:00 pm. Should you provide a parking voucher – your parking fee will be reduced or eliminated. (If you have a cocktail hour immediately following your wedding ceremony at the same location, your cocktail reception (l hour) is free.

My fees are competitive. They are not the highest nor are they the lowest! Should you choose to hire a musical entertainment agency/ contractor, you will pay a much higher fee in order for that agent to receive a commission as high as 60%. When you contract with me, you are contracting with the artist, directly. There are no additional/hidden fees. Further discounts may apply if the event is a fundraiser/political event/non profit organization where advertising space may be offered in lieu of monetary compensation. I perform gratis for many groups where funds are raised to benefit children.

There are so many factors considered when I set my fee. You are paying for my experience, professionalism, and talent.

You may find a pianist who you feel is a true “bargain” but what kind of value are you getting if your pianist decides not to show up on THE most important day of your life? Be sure you ask for a contract to avoid misunderstandings, miscommunications, and to ensure your pianist will be there on time – preferably…. EARLY!!

Just as you search to purchase a new car, you have the option of buying an economical, compact car or you may have the option to purchase a luxury, deluxe, sedan. Your budget is definitely a consideration! However, you would not skimp on food or flowers so why would you decide to “cut” on entertainment when music will set the tone for your entire event? Your music should be a perfect addition for your perfect day.

When your guests are still talking about the music at your party years later ~ make sure they aren’t talking about the lady in the purple polka dot dress who only knew how to play “Let Me Call You Sweetheart” —– or worse yet – that really good friend of yours who got “stage fright” at the last minute and never showed up at all. Guests will always remember the music and how much fun they had! They will not remember the food or what color the flowers were.

What do you remember about the last party you attended?

Trust a professional by taking advantage of their talent, their years of experience, and knowledge of their craft. Spend the few extra dollars for your peace of mind. You will never be sorry.

About The Author: Kathie Nicolet, Chicago Pianist For Beautiful Wedding Ceremonies And Receptions Since 1983. www.knicoletpiano.com, Phone: 630 830 2345, Preferred Vendor Chicago History Museum, Hyatt/Hilton/Doubletree/Westin Hotels – Von Maur Lead Pianist – St. Charles.

Copyright © 2009 Kathie L. Nicolet, All Rights Reserved. This material cannot be reproduced in part or in its entirety without the written consent of Kathie L. Nicolet.

 

Selecting Your Wedding Musicians

May
26


Suggestions For Selecting Your Wedding Musicians

by: Kathie Nicolet

Many brides are so overwhelmed by having to make 2,156 decisions in planning their wedding ceremonies and receptions to ensure their absolutely perfect wedding day. What to choose? Silver or gold table linens? Chicken or salmon? Pink roses or delphiniums?

Please, allow me to assist you in selecting your wedding musicians.

As a Professional Chicago Pianist and Wedding Musician for over 21 years, I have been a significant part of thousands of celebrations that included “behind the scenes” negotiations, phone discussions, music selections, rehearsals, recommendations for additional vendors, etc. Particular brides were searching for ONLY the best, and I’d like to share suggestions in how you can do the same to ensure YOUR special day being memorable, beautiful, and special.

# 1 Relax and trust the wedding professionals to help you by virtue of our expertise! We have had countless years of experience and witnessed almost every possible scenario imaginable. I, personally, have seen a bride faint just before saying “ I do”, brides who heard the Bridal March and just stood in the doorway, frozen — (The ring bearer had forgotten the ring on the 16th floor of the hotel!), ceremonies starting 45 minutes late because Uncle Bob took a wrong turn driving to the church, etc. Despite the challenges presented, these weddings were absolutely beautiful ~ with much credit given to professional vendors who knew how to handle them! When selecting your vendors, be sure they can offer you top references and have professional materials to share that represent a quality business. If your phone calls are not handled professionally and promptly, you are wise to go to someone else.

Remember: You are planning one wedding. We help plan thousands!

Many people are looking for value today and may believe that because Aunt Frannie plays the piano, she’d be perfect as your cocktail pianist! Aunt Frannie may know ” Let Me Call You Sweetheart” ~ but do you want to hear it 35 times in an hour? Will your guests be disappointed because she doesn’t know how to play anything else? Let Aunt Frannie be a guest. Leave the music to the professional who has a wide repertoire for everyone present. We are trained to take requests, play polished, professional arrangements ~ and do it all while smiling and carrying on a conversation without taking our hands off the keys!!

# 2 All beautiful, elegant, wedding ceremonies and receptions will have “live” music. Please leave your CDs in the car. If you are absolutely on the tightest budget, you can hire a solo musician for what two dinner entrees or a lovely floral centerpiece would cost you. It’s smart not to “ cut corners” with ambience. Music sets the tone for your day. Your guests WILL notice! Keep this thought in mind, as well, for your wedding showers, rehearsal dinners, and your post-nuptial champagne brunches!! A celebration without music is ONLY a meeting.

# 3 Ask your friends to share names of Chicago vendors they have dealt with for their special occasions. If you don’t know of anyone, the facility where you are planning your event usually has a list of Preferred Musicians for Wedding Ceremonies/Receptions/Corporate Events that include wonderful people such as Bands/Orchestras/DJ’s/Florists/Photographers/Caterers/Videogrpahers, etc. Just ask your Catering Coordinator for their list of Professional Musicians In Chicago. This is the best possible resource you can find in that recommended vendors do not PAY to be listed!! Preferred vendors are, specifically, recommended for consistent quality service and impeccable reputations. Anyone can get listed in a phone book or a wedding magazine for a fee. Recommendations will cost you nothing but are tremendously valuable resources. If the facility recommends someone superior who your guests are talking about for weeks to come following your wedding, this reflects extremely well upon the vendor and the facility. If WE look good, THEY look good!!

#4 Chicago brides planning Catholic wedding ceremonies need to consult with the Musical Director of their local churches before selecting musicians. It is common practice for the church to REQUIRE you utilize their “in house” musicians and will not allow you to bring in “outside” vendors. The church often has an “approved” list of musical selections allowed. Be sure to call first.

Congratulations on your special day! For those seeking recommendations for additional Chicago vendors, please contact me, anytime ~ !! My personal recommendations are provided as complimentary service for those seeking only the BEST that Chicago has to offer for YOUR Special, Successful Day!!

Warmest Regards,

Kathie Nicolet

About The Author: Kathie Nicolet, Chicago Pianist For Beautiful Wedding Ceremonies And Receptions Since 1983. www.knicoletpiano.com, Phone: 630 830 2345, Preferred Vendor Chicago History Museum, Hyatt/Hilton/Doubletree/Westin Hotels – Von Maur Lead Pianist – St. Charles. Copyright 2007 All Rights Reserved K L Nicolet Article Cannot Be Reproduced, Duplicated Or Reprinted Without Permission

 

Choosing The Right DJ

Dec
28


Choosing The Right DJ/Entertainer For YOU: 20 Questions To Ask

It is estimated that between 60 and 75 percent of brides and grooms are now opting for Disc Jockey Entertainment at their wedding receptions. The underlying reasons include the fact that DJs are overall less expensive than bands, most professional DJs have an extensive repertoire of music covering the past 60-100 years, and since they are at many wedding receptions each year from start to finish, they generally will have a very good idea of the flow necessary to make your wedding reception a memorable one.

However, there are many differences among Disc Jockey companies. One misperception is that all DJs have a day job outside of DJing. While this does ring true for most, there are many excellent Full-Time Disc Jockey Entertainers across the country. There are also some very good to excellent Part-Time DJ Entertainers, and unfortunately many more that are “human jukeboxes” out for a fast buck (i.e. hobbyists)

Choosing your Disc Jockey is one of the five biggest decisions you will need to make for your wedding reception. A Great Disc Jockey will make the party memorable while a Bad Disc Jockey can also make it memorable, just for the wrong reasons.

Use this questionnaire when interviewing potential DJ/Entertainment choices. This should help you find Disc Jockey Entertainers that are knowledgeable, courteous, and most importantly are willing to listen to you as you paint the picture to what is YOUR perfect wedding day.

1. How many wedding receptions have you performed at?
2. Do you have references I can speak with or email?
3. May I see you perform at a wedding reception?
a. No. This should be a major red flag for anyone. Would you want a complete stranger crashing your wedding reception, even for just five minutes?
4. How much do you charge or better – What kind of value will I get for my Entertainment dollar?
5. Are you limited to only 4 or 5 Hours because you have another wedding?
6. How early will you arrive for my wedding reception?
7. Are you a “High Strung” DJ? Or do you make yourself the “Center of Attention”?
8. How early do you arrive prior to a wedding reception?
9. What do you wear to a wedding reception?
10. I’ve heard horror stories of drunk DJs, DJs that smoke like a chimney. Do you do either of those?
11. Will the DJ act as a Master of Ceremony?
12. How much music do you have?
13. Do you customize music and evens to my tastes?
14. Can I control the Volume (i.e. If I ask to turn it up or down, will you?)
15. What is the payment schedule?
16. What is the cancellation policy?
17. What happens if you get sick or some tragic event happens in your life, do we have a backup?
18. Do you Sub-Contract your work out? – Are you going to be the DJ at my event?
19. Do you charge travel fees?
20. Do you charge for overtime?

About The Author: Jim Casey has been a DJ/Entertainer for over 20 years in the state of Maine. He has been featured in the three major Disc Jockey publications (Mobile Beat, DJ Times, and National Entertainer) and is the owner of djmaine.com, LLC which includes Jim Casey Entertainment www.djmaine.com and the Maine Wedding Planner.

 

Hiring A DJ – Points To Consider

Dec
28


Hiring A DJ: Points To Consider

Your two best choices for entertainment today are Bands and Disc Jockeys, and while Bands do generate their own particular energy it is practically impossible for them to match the vast music library that a qualified DJ can provide.

The purpose of this article is to help you choose the best DJ for your Wedding Reception. Mobile Disc Jockeys are some of the most versatile music professionals available, they are your “one-stop shopping” resource for Ceremony and Reception entertainment, pro sound support, and event consultation and planning.

The Wedding Ceremony is for the Bride to be the center of attention, but the Reception is to thank your family and friends for witnessing your marriage vows, and as such, your focus should be on how to make the party enjoyable for the majority of those in attendance.

This is your first party hosted as husband and wife and every detail should reflect the joy and happiness you share to your guests. Expertly chosen music adds flavor beyond the best food and bouquet surpassing the most fragrant blossoms. Guests tend to remember the entertainment you provide above most other things, be it good or bad.

A professional DJ provides the positive catalyst for your party, skillfully selected and played music will add the important “feel good” element that helps everyone interact, rekindle relationships faded by time away and form new friendships. Music is relaxing, exciting, romantic, and inspirational. Dancing keeps everyone at your event longer and contributes greatly to your guest’s enjoyment.

Consider this when shopping for your DJ service:

Your choice of entertainer is an insurance policy against bad memories of a disappointing occasion. Unfortunately, the DJ is often the last service chosen, after much of the budget is spent on a venue, food and clothing. This backwards planning often forces Brides and Party Planners to shop for the cheapest possible price. Many people will pay far more for a cake, flowers, or a veggie platter than they will for the most crucial ingredient of a party the music. The entertainer you select will be taking on the responsibility of over 80% of the success of your party and often gets paid less than 3% of the total budget, (based on the average $25,000.00 Wedding, 3% would equal $750.00), yet if the DJ is a poor performer or a no-show you just wasted your entire investment, not just that 3%.

You need to consider the entertainment as a commodity that you purchase to feed each of your guests.  If you’re buffet costs $15.00 per person (with 250 people), you’ll pay $3750.00 plus tax ($187.50 in Idaho), and rest assured, the Caterer will add their own minimum 15% gratuity, (sometimes 18%-25%, and you’ll never know who actually gets it), so add another $562.50 for a total of $4500.00! Let’s not forget the $2.00 per guest they’ll charge just for simply cutting your cake …another $500.00 in their pocket! At the last Wedding you attended, do you remember what was served? Most people don’t, and you’re spending nearly five grand on that! Have you ever seen someone pay overtime rates to stay later at the venue because everyone was still eating cake five hours later? No? Well, they do it all the time when the guests are still dancing and the party is still hopping!

Quality entertainment from D.J. Ken’s Mobile Music breaks down to only a few dollars per person, my services last for hours and I would never have the effrontery to add in a mandatory gratuity!

Can I just have a friend use his stereo?

If you thought about renting or borrowing all the necessary components, or “doing it yourself”, you would most likely end up spending a lot of money and be quite disappointed with the results. A home stereo and a multi-disc changer are no substitute for a professional entertainer crafting a show specially designed for you and your guests. You should be completely comfortable with your DJ, who you choose for your wedding reception or special event will have a greater effect than any other factor, even food or location.

Prompt return of your phone calls or Emails:

You should expect to get a call back or an Email back within 24 hours. Not all DJ’s are full-time, many are out working their day jobs and may not be able to return your call within an hour or two. You may want to ask them about their availability to you for answering questions and handling any problems that may arise, always confirm that there will be no conflict of interests on your chosen date. A full-time DJ Service won’t have last minute day job overtime keeping them from getting to your event on time.

Willingness to meet with you and present their service:

Will the DJ meet with you to help plan your dream day, or are they just trying to book the date sight unseen? Is their material neat and professional looking, and is their presentation organized and informative?

Some DJs invite clients to see them at other receptions. However, most DJs refuse to do this. Two problems with “visiting” is the fact that the reception you see is crafted for an entirely different group than you and your guests, and it is a gross imposition to invite strangers to your party.

Some DJ’s use videotapes for their presentation. Videos show the DJ in action. They usually show the DJ, his setup, and how the guests react to his performance. Videos are convenient, but because they are edited for use, they may not always provide an accurate indicator of a DJ’s typical performance.

The best way to judge a prospective DJ is an in-person meeting; this will help you to determine if you will be comfortable with them. A face-to-face meeting, maybe over lunch or dinner, allows you to judge his/her appearance, posture, manners, speaking ability, and knowledge of receptions and music. A professional DJ should be friendly, personable, and easy to talk with. He should actively listen to your concerns and address them in a positive manner. He also should be able to explain the basic order of events, and what his strategy is for making your reception unique and special. A true professional is flexible and will always have more than one way to accomplish a goal.

Do you LIKE the person that shows up?

There is NOTHING worse in the world than having to worry about things you shouldn’t have to, you are hiring a professional and your worries should end right there. Choosing the person who feels right is the most important factor in picking the right entertainer for your party or reception. The DJ you choose should be very open about what he/she can do for you and should volunteer information and show you that knowledge base. Is the person knowledgeable about your type of event? There are all kinds of DJ’s. Club DJ’s, Wedding DJ’s, Rave DJ’s, Radio DJ’s the list is long and varied! Can the DJ you interview handle your type of event? Ask the DJ how many events of your type that he/she has done. Get references AND CALL THEM!

What sort of documents does the DJ use to procure your business?

In a good interview, the DJ should show you several documents. First and foremost is a planner. This planner should impress you to the point where you begin to understand that the DJ you are hiring is a professional, and is capable of handling your event. A sample copy of the CONTRACT to be used should be available as well as a schedule of pricing information. A good DJ should have at least a handful of current references. You should be able to call these previous clients and ask them what they liked/disliked about their DJ. Be sure to call several to get a more “balanced” criteria of his/her better receptions.

Does the DJ have a way to show you what sort of music he or she has available?

Many DJ’s do not use music play-lists, others do. In some fashion you need to be assured that the DJ you hire not only has a sizeable library, but has a wide variety of music especially selected for wedding receptions, where many different styles of music and guests will be in the same room together.

Will the DJ offer to meet with you BEFORE & AFTER signing the contract to plan your event?

A professional DJ is ALWAYS willing to discuss your event at any time before the event starts, and should display the flexibility to accommodate changes and help you solve problems. Planner meetings with your DJ are of paramount importance to a successful event.

Is the person that you signed to contract with the person that will perform at your event?

This is THE most common complaint about the DJ industry today. The person you meet turns out NOT to be the performer that actually does your show. Often, you are not aware of this. Ask the DJ you interview if they will be the actual person performing, or is the event to be handed off to someone else. You need to know this UP FRONT before you sign a contract.

Are You the Dj’s only responsibility that day?

Is your DJ a single operator or a multi-op with more than one system and more than one entertainer? Full-Time or Part-Time? This can be an important consideration. You need to be certain that you are going to be the priority on your special day, whichever service you choose.

A Professional Demeanor

Simply put, a professional DJ should dress appropriately to your event (formal wear for a wedding, etc.); be set up and ready before your guests arrive; use a setup procedure that is unobtrusive, safe and orderly; and treat you, your guests and other vendors with respect. He/she should be polite and able to handle adversity in a calm, unobtrusive manner.

Great Communications

Your DJ should be able to speak in a clear, concise, easy to understand manner. He/she must be able to introduce you and your guests and make announcements that are easy to understand in a noisy room. He/she should be able to grab the attention of your guests, and enunciate and project his/her message with a positive attitude.

Quality Equipment and Music

Your DJ should use professional-grade equipment. This refers to heavy-duty speakers, amplifiers, mixers, etc., just like a band or a broadcast studio would use. Most home stereo equipment will not reliably perform to the quality standards necessary to ensure the success of your event.

The Desire to Please the Client

There are two basic approaches to DJ’ing. The first is to develop a show that seems to work for the majority of parties and stick to that formula. This is often referred to as “cookie cutter” DJ’ing. It is most often seen executed by less experienced entertainers who are still finding themselves.

The other approach is to use a well organized flexible planning format with a variety of options. In this approach, the Client decides what special events they do or do not want. They also choose a limited number of songs (usually 10-20) that they feel would be appreciated by their guests. The DJ can always play other requests, using discretion as to what is appropriate to the spirit of the event. The key to this approach is to balance the preferences of the Client with those of their guests. This is most often utilized by the more experienced entertainers.

There are both good and bad DJs that use each approach. A good “cookie cutter” DJ takes care of all the details. If you don’t like filling out questionnaires and making a lot of decisions, you might enjoy a “canned” show better. If you wish to have substantial input into your event, the “flexible planning” DJ should be your choice.

An Agreement In Writing

Professional DJs should always provide written agreements for their services. It provides legal protection for both parties and gives your DJ the information he/she needs to entertain your guests properly. The contract/agreement should include the following:

The name of the DJ (Vendor) and the name of the person responsible for payment (Client).

The venue name, address, contact person, date and time of the reception, including starting and ending time

The details of services provided by the Vendor

The details of services provided by the Client

The total price to be paid for the DJ’s services

When payment of the balance is due

Overtime authorization details

Cancellation requirements of both the Client and Vendor

Signature of DJ and client (dated)

Usually a retainer and a signed agreement are required to “block out” your date. The agreement should note your retainer payment (amount and check #) and the balance due. Read your agreement carefully before signing.

However you choose your DJ, the final goal is to please you and your guests, remember…

Quality isn’t expensive, it’s priceless!

About the Author: Ken Heath is the owner/operator of D.J. Ken’s Mobile Music, a business that he started as “Powerplay” back in 1978 in Fullerton California. Over the years DJKen has performed at many private and public events from San Diego, California to Boise, Idaho…Las Vegas, Nevada to Okinawa Japan! DJKen’s inspiration for DJ’ing stems from his family’s long involvement with radio…his mother was with KWIZ-AM, an uncle was on the base station at Camp Pendleton in the 70′s and yet another uncle is world-famous as radio pioneer, Wolfman Jack.

Classic Car Shows and Cruises remain a favorite and DJKen’s favorite spot to spin the hits is still The Corvette Diner, in Uptown San Diego. Since 1998 DJKen has been the Moderator of the General Conversation board at ProDJ.com the leading internet educational resource for DJ’s, sharing his wealth of knowledge with DJ’s all over the world and learning a few things along the way himself! DJKen is being followed in the industry by his daughter, Rhiannon, who began her professional career as a mobile DJ at the age of 15 with a system given to her by her Dad.

 

How To Hire A DJ For Your Wedding

Dec
28


How To Hire A DJ For Your Wedding

Hiring music entertainment can arguably be the most important booking made for your wedding. Guests remember whether or not they had fun at your wedding. What you pay for is what you get is a good rule of thumb. However, I would like to educate the consumer, future brides and grooms, of how to hire a DJ and things to consider. The following are 9 important factors to consider when hiring a disc jockey BEFORE you sign the contract.

1. Who would be the DJ for your occasion? Many DJ companies are a multi-system operation. Be sure to have in writing of who your DJ will be at your event. I would recommend meeting your DJ before hiring the company at a neutral place, like a restaurant.

2. How many years experience does your DJ have with your type of function? Anyone can pretend to be a DJ. If you are having a formal event, does your DJ know how to organize a wedding reception or a grand entrance? The DJ should perform the type of show that you want!

3. Does the DJ get everyone involved dancing or do they just play music? You have to ask yourself if you want a DJ that will get everyone dancing? For example, will the DJ involve guests by playing and conducting motivational dances like the Chicken Dance, Hokey Pokey, Cha Cha Slide or just play music?

4. Will the DJ be dressed appropriately? Formal means tuxedo or dress. Semi-formal means dress pants, shirt & tie or slacks and blouse. Casual means polo shirt or company shirt. Be sure the DJ is dressed appropriately during set-up and takedown of equipment. Some guests do arrive early and stay late.

5. What is the DJ’s fee? How much is overtime? Is a tip included in the fee? Will there be an extra charge for lighting-what does the lighting include? How much is travel to your location? Are you ONLY paying for the time the DJ performs?

6. Does the DJ include a contract? Be sure to have all details of your function in writing. The DJ must know the date, place, and time! You must know each other’s names and phone numbers including the DAY of the occasion.

7. Is the DJ company professional? This may sound silly, but does the DJ have insurance? Accidents do happen. It’s better to be prepared. Also, is the DJ a member of a national DJ association like ADJA or NAME? If they are, then they care about what they do and are a better chance of being professional.

8. What kind of equipment does the DJ use? Typically, if a DJ is using a brand of equipment you can buy at your local retail store, then that’s what you will get. Excellent brand names include: JBL, Community, Denon, Gemini, QSC, Crown, etc. Always, and I mean always, ask if the DJ has back-up equipment WITH them for your function. Also, be sure the DJ brings the right amount of sound for the number of guests expected.

9. What music do you play? How many music selections will the DJ have WITH them? Be sure your DJ takes requests before and during your function. Also, give them a guideline of what you want played. However, this is what the DJ is paid to do. Don’t limit the DJ by saying you want all of one kind of music or a list of 100 songs they must play. The best scenario is to play any type of music that gets people dancing and having fun. By the way, it should be understood the DJ does not play any offensive music.

I hope this helps!

About the Author

Matt Campbell is the owner and webmaster of WeddingMuseum.com, an online wedding planning resource.  WeddingMuseum.com features free wedding websites, wedding planning ideas and tools, local vendor listings, wedding song lists and wedding store.